In James 4, the writer swung his axe at the root of one of our deepest problems: a smothering absorption with our own desires—getting our own way and having our own needs met. When that passion is frustrated, it can quickly become blind rage that demeans others and debases us. Though we may get what we want, we're left feeling unsatisfied.
It's better to ask God to meet our needs with His hands, in His time, in His way; to yield our will to His control, and pray as Jesus did, "Not My will, but Yours, be done" (Luke 22:42).
It does no good to brood over injustices, to try to set things right on our own, or to let our lustful desires determine our decisions. Submitting to our own desire for pleasure will lead to "wars and fights" inside us and with those around us (James 4:1).
Before our anger peaks, we can call for a "time out" and take a walk with the One who understands us better than we understand ourselves—who cares for us more than we can ever know. We can tell Him about our anger and mull things over with Him.
We can ask God to meet our needs His way, for as James said, He gives "more grace" (v.6)—a gift far greater than anything we can manage on our own.
— David H. Roper
When anger lingers in our hearts,
It poisons all we think and do;
But faith seeks ways to show God's love
And keeps our spirit strong and true. —D. De Haan
For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness.